SISTER 💅💅

SISTER...

 You are happily married/in a relationship. One day, a mysterious guy starts calling you. He just wants to be a friend, he says. You initially rebuff his advances; after all, what business do you have with another man when you are happily committed to one man. But then, you tell your friends and they cajole you into giving Mr. Mysterious a chance. They make you see your partner in a new light- boring, uptight, not too cute, rustic and not too wealthy. You agree. The friendship starts. You refuse to tell your partner. You can handle this one.


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 Then you begin to withdraw from your partner. He suddenly appears boring. This new found friendship is more fascinating and interesting. When your partner leaves for work in the morning, you pretend to be asleep. But as soon as he leaves, you get on the phone with your friend. You are enjoying this new friendship. The attention, the shower of gifts (requested and freely given), outings, the games, the chemistry…. You finally agree with your friends. What harm can one friendship cause? What you do not know is that your friend is now your lover. You are now in another relationship but you still think of your lover as just a friend. He doesn’t share your opinion.

 One day, your birthday, he buys you a car. You refuse, not because you do not want it. But because you cannot find a way to explain it away when your now boring partner asks. Angrily, Mr Mysterious leaves for his house. Later at night, you go to his house with a well prepared apology. Things go haywire, he grabs and kisses your soft lips. You leave in mock anger, ignoring the warning bells tolling in the crevices of your head. Your partner still knows nothing about this. Nothing about Mr Mysterious.

 After the kisscapade, you forgive your friend and move on with the friendship. Your marriage/relationship is crumbling. You don’t seem to notice. You are basking in the euphoria of a new found friend who is in love with you, without your knowledge and consent.

 One day, his birthday, he visits you unexpectedly. Genuinely angry, you order him out. He refuses. Instead, he grabs you. Another kiss and your fence comes crashing down. You begin to make out. Your partner walks in, with your senses in tow. You break away from the hot romance. Down on your knees you go. And begin to blame the devil.

 Faraway in the Bahamas, on a well deserved vacation from nefarious activities, the devil gets up and begins his flight to heaven. This false accusation must be brought before the Father.

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 Sister, the devil didn’t push you into this mess. Yeah, he might have commandeered some of your friends but he never told you to allow that friendship blossom. You saw it coming. And you walked right into it. This is not the devil’s fault. You knew the intentions of Mr. Mysterious but you chose to give him the benefit of the doubt.

 Wake up. Be deliberate. You know those unwholesome friendships that will be injurious to your marriage/relationship. Define the niceness. Know when to draw the line. Hide nothing from your partner. Hide nothing from your partner. Hide nothing from your partner. If Mr. Mysterious is disturbing you, tell him. Sift your friends. Anyone who maliciously puts down your partner in your presence or absence isn’t fit to be your friend. Don’t flirt with exes or persistent “toasters.” Do not create an enabling environment. There is no such thing as harmless flirting. If you’ve started on this track, rethink.

Brother, I am coming for you. As they say, your own is in your body.

Written by: Eromonsele Emmanuel Ujiadughele